At some point in everyone of our lives we all go through some rough times.

I mean let's be honest, life can be tough.

For some, the hard times in life leave deep scars that don't heal, just because a person is smiling on the outside does not necessarily mean they are doing OK.

How many times have you told someone you were fine when inside your own head you felt like you were falling apart?

We have all been there at least once.

With the recent deaths of Chris Cornell and Chester Bennington, a spotlight (which is likely not overdue) has finally been placed on depression.

For decades we have been taught to hide our feelings, to pretend life is great; even when it's not; we are conditioned to put one foot in front of the other and when asked "how are you?" to always respond with a smile and 'fine' "how are you?"

Because, let's be honest, 99% of the time when we ask someone 'how they are' we're just going through the formalities of being polite.

But what if we started asking "how are you?" and meaning it!

Like it or not humans are social creatures and we need each other.

We need the interaction of friends and family to lift us up and bring joy to our lives.

Let's not let the spotlight fade, let's keep it shining and really start being available and listening to not only to what people say, but how they say it, and how they look when they say it.

It's time we all stop thinking of depression as something to be embarrassed about and hiding it from friends and family.

It's time we allow for open discussions, time to encourage treatment, it's time we talk about it with each other.

If you're suffering, reach out.

If you know someone who is suffering or you suspect someone is suffering take time and reach out to them.

You could be the difference they need.